01.03.2025
Lipedema Column – Part 11
No one has the right to judge your body - Body Shaming with Lipedema
Dear ones, this will be my last contribution to this column. In recent months, I have written a lot about the topic of lipedema. In conclusion, I would like to talk about a subject that has particularly occupied me lately: body shaming with lipedema.
Women and also those affected by lipedema know it all too well: unsolicited comments about their bodies, unsolicited advice, and with lipedema, hurtful remarks like "Maybe you should just exercise more?", "Why don't you try a diet?" or "Oh, don't imagine things, the pain can't be that bad"... and many more.
These sentences hurt us. They make us doubt ourselves, even though we know that lipedema is not a matter of laziness or exercise.
Important: No one has the right to judge your body, your situation, or your pain!
But what to do about stupid remarks?
easily implementable
Here are three tips to arm yourself against body shaming:
Set boundaries
You don't owe anyone an explanation! If someone comments on your body or your pain without being asked, you can respond politely but firmly: "Thank you for your opinion, but my body is none of your business." Often, that's enough to steer the conversation in the right direction. The other person won't have much more to say after that.
Be quick-witted
If you want to defuse the situation with humor, for example, you can respond with a light-hearted remark. To a "Maybe you should exercise more?" you can, for instance, reply with a smile: "Oh, have you suddenly become a lipedema expert? Then enlighten me." This way, you steer the conversation and bring the focus back to the person who just made an inappropriate comment.
Educate about lipedema
Yes, it is exhausting, and yes, you repeat yourself constantly – but sometimes it takes the hundredth time for relatives or friends to really understand. Speak openly (but only if you are ready) about your lipedema condition, explain the symptoms, and make it clear that lipedema has nothing to do with laziness or lack of exercise. The more you educate about lipedema and the more people know, the fewer hurtful words there will be.
Don't let everything get to you
Many people speak out of ignorance or insecurity. That doesn't mean their words are true or correct or have anything to do with you.
What else can you do?
Remember your strengths
Your body is much more than an outward appearance. It carries you through life, enables you to have beautiful experiences, and deserves your appreciation. Be proud of what you can do and who you are!
Every person has the right to feel comfortable in their body, just as it is – including you!
And now I would like to thank you. Thank you for your time!
This column was a matter close to my heart. I hope it could give you courage, inspiration, and new perspectives. I sincerely wish you all the best on your journey!
If you have questions or need further input, you can find me on Instagram: @taliamenzel.
All the best for you,
Your Talia