01.03.2025
Lipedema Column – Part 11
No one has the right to judge your body – Body shaming with lipedema
Dear ones, this will be my last contribution to this column. Over the past few months, I have written a lot about lipedema. As a conclusion, I want to talk about a topic that has been on my mind lately: body shaming with lipedema.
Women and other people affected by lipedema know it all too well: unsolicited comments about their bodies, unasked-for advice, and hurtful remarks such as: "Maybe you should just exercise more?", "Why don’t you go on a diet?", or "Oh, stop imagining things, the pain can’t be that bad!"… and many more.
These statements hurt us. They make us doubt ourselves, even though we know that lipedema has nothing to do with laziness or lack of exercise.
Important: No one has the right to judge your body, your situation, or your pain!
But what can you do about rude remarks?
Easy to apply
Here are three tips to shield yourself against body shaming:
Set boundaries
You don’t owe anyone an explanation! If someone comments on your body or pain without being asked, you can respond politely but firmly: *"Thanks for your opinion, but my body is none of your business."* Often, that’s enough to steer the conversation in the right direction. The other person will likely have little to say after that.
Be quick-witted
If you want to defuse the situation with humour, you can respond with a witty remark. For example, if someone says, *"Maybe you should exercise more?"*, you can smile and reply: *"Oh, you’ve suddenly become a lipedema expert? Then enlighten me."* This way, you take control of the conversation and shift the focus back to the person who made the inappropriate comment.
Educate about lipedema
Yes, it’s exhausting, and yes, you’ll have to repeat yourself often—but sometimes, it takes explaining it a hundred times before family or friends truly understand. Speak openly about your lipedema (but only if you feel ready), explain the symptoms, and make it clear that lipedema has nothing to do with laziness or lack of exercise. The more you educate and the more people are informed, the fewer hurtful words will be spoken.
Don’t let everything get to you
Many people make comments out of ignorance or insecurity. That doesn’t mean their words are true or that they should affect you.
What else can you do?
Remind yourself of your strengths
Your body is much more than just its appearance. It carries you through life, allows you to experience beautiful moments, and deserves your appreciation. Be proud of what you can do and who you are!
Everyone has the right to feel comfortable in their body just as they are – and that includes you!
And now, I want to say thank you. Thank you for your time!
This column has been a matter of the heart for me. I hope it has given you courage, inspiration, and new perspectives. I sincerely wish you all the best on your journey!
If you have any questions or need further input, you can find me on Instagram: @taliamenzel.
With love,
Your Talia